2019

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2019

The first few weeks or months of 2019 kinda made sense. I was happy, energized and hopeful about the year. Then… things began to change. I no longer felt like doing what I always loved doing. I was clueless about many things (if not everything). I felt so much pain and void.

Waking up became so difficult because there was nothing to look forward to. The goals I set? I didn’t care whether or not I achieved them. I suddenly went from “thriving mode” to “survival mode” (That’s if at all I wanted to survive)

There was this emptiness inside of me. I knew what was wrong most times but how to solve the issue(s) was the challenge. Permit me to say that I LOST IT at some point in time.

Family, I am sincerely grateful for you! You stood by me and continued to be strong for me when I had no strength left. You kept me going with your positive words and actions. You remain special and irreplaceable. I won’t trade you for anything in this world!

“Female friendships save lives”

This saying is so true! I don’t, and I’ll never believe that all women do is hate on each other. I had strong and amazing women who supported me and rooted for me like crazy! We cried and laughed together. Danced and ate together. Prayed and played together. I love you all so much! What’s life without you warriors?

️I also had male friends that I was certain had my back 100%. I called and they responded. They really came through for me and made me smile even when things seemed to fall apart.

I won’t forget the older people who were there to guide and advice me. They encouraged me and their words, I can’t easily forget.

Another group I have to mention are the organizations and corporate bodies that gave me platforms to do what I love doing. They made me feel happy and fulfilled by shooting a short film about me, giving me the opportunity to make impact globally and inviting me to speak and collaborate to make the world a better place among others. They also reminded me why I do what I do.

And last but not least, the hundreds or thousands of people I got to meet in person and/ or online. The love you showed me melted my heart countless times. Your messages, calls, mentions, shares, reposts, voice notes and lots more encouraged me. You kept telling me how amazing I am and how inspired you were by me. You pushed me to indeed do more and be more like I’ve always said.

In summary, I’d like to say that although I did not achieve most of the things I planned to achieve, I learned and I am still learning that you should:

  • Have a great support system around you. Trust me, they make life better!
  • Don’t rush it – take your time. You are not missing out on anything to be honest. The world will wait. It’s only when you are fine that you can achieve that goal. Take those breaks and breathe. You owe no one an explanation.
  • There is absolutely nothing wrong in failing. Don’t beat yourself up.
  • Give yourself a chance. You also deserve to be happy
  • It’s good to plan but don’t spend the entire time planning and preparing. Take risks. Fall in love. Travel and explore. Go on a date. Apply for that job. Write that business plan. Or simply do nothing for a while. All that matters is, are you happy and at peace?

I wish you all a better 2020 and I hope that life treats you well. Don’t forget that you matter too and you need to surround yourself with the right people especially so that the difficult days won’t knock you down to a point where you are unable to get up. Don’t forget to be good to others… and yourself!

Once again, thank you to all those who held me up and stood by me through one of the most difficult years of my life. I love you all forever! And more importantly, you are loved by GOD!

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23 Comments

  1. Wadii, you’re an inspirational writer and your heart is so kind. I can feel that essence at the very core of your writing. Subtle, truthful and empowering messages on each paragraph. I think this is one of your best ones yet!

  2. Wadi Ben Hirki Gloria Amosun says:

    Wadi! Thank you for this! I love you so much! So very much! Cheers to a wonderful 2020!

  3. Oh my goodness! Wadi, you are great. I pray God continue to surround you with the right people and opportunities. We will always love you.

  4. Wadi Ben Hirki Abdullahi Yahya Ubandoma says:

    Wadi you are wonderful, strong and amazing, the whole world is proud of you continue to be strong and help the world God is always at your back. You are the best among the best

  5. Wadi Ben Hirki Judith Simon says:

    It can only get better Wadi love. I feel so proud knowing you. The end is your beginning. I can only pray for long life and grace for you. Kudos!!!!

  6. Wadi Ben Hirki Chidinma Ibemere says:

    Happy New Year Wadi.. May you shine more this year.

  7. Wadi Ben Hirki Hawa BenHirki says:

    When God is at the helm of your affairs, all fear give way. Therefore always let go and let God have absolute control over everything about you.
    Happy New Year as we hold on to our God to continue with His miraculous deeds in your life.
    Have a very impactful life my gal!

  8. Wadi Ben Hirki Oyindamola Adegboye says:

    Thanks Wadi for this timely and inspirational piece. I could literally hear your voice all through the article. Have an amazing 2020.

  9. Wadi Ben Hirki Sunkey Daniel says:

    How do u do this Wadi ?

  10. Wadi Ben Hirki Benedicta Uweru says:

    I owe no one no explanation! Breathe! That paragraph stood out for me. Thank you Wadi! Its amazing to know we’re not alone in the challenges we face as young leaders, getting so engrossed in helping others & making positive impact that we almost harm ourselves in the process. Thank you for sharing Wadi.

  11. Wadi Ben Hirki Benedicta Uweru says:

    I owe no one no explanation! Breathe! That paragraph stood out for me. Thank you Wadi! Its amazing to know we’re not alone in the challenges we face as young leaders, getting so engrossed in helping others & making positive impact that we almost harm ourselves in the process. Thank you for sharing Wadi.

  12. Awesome post! Keep up the great work! 🙂

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